My Personal Record Book
As we go through our lives we collect lists of things we do, personal records, and personal bests. Maybe it’s a competition we have with ourselves, a competition with friends, or just the things that add up over time that we really don’t think about much. Along the way, whether by chance or intent, we develop our own personal record book. What’s in yours? Are you an “Olympian” in one particular area? Still working on beating your best in another? Let’s take a look…
Family Ties
It’s no secret that families all over the world are changing. In times past, families were big with lots of children. Parents stayed married no matter what. People lived on farms and in the country. These days families are increasingly smaller with fewer children. It’s not uncommon to have parents that are divorced or to have multiple sets of parents. Even to have same-sex parents. What’s the make up of your family? What’s the shape of the family you’re growing up in? (Or have grown up in?) Take the polls and let’s take a look at your family ties.
Never Say Never (PART 2)
No, this has nothing to do with Justin Bieber. At all. Or Jake Gyllenhaal.
This is a continuation of our discussion of those hidden things you have in mind that you haven’t ever done before, but would really like to experience. And…it’s about those things on the other side of the fence. The things that people do that you would just not ever consider doing.
So what’s on your list? What do you fantasize about trying sometime? What do your friends talk about that just makes you say “N way would I ever do that!”
Or, are you one of those people who says, “Never Say Never”?
What’s Your Style? (Down There)
You can divide the world into two kinds of guys. Those who manscape down there and those who don’t. Is manscaping your crotch just a passing trend? Or a style revolution that’s here to stay?
Guys who don’t manscape claim they see no reason to. In fact, the practice can be viewed by many as less than manly. Guys who do manscape claim to love it. They say it’s got numerous comfort, hygiene, and appearance advantages that can’t be beat. And what about the ladies? There are those who love a styled look and insist their boyfriends go for it, and then there are those who prefer a man in his natural bushy state.
What’s your point of view? Is manscaping a good thing? Or are you just a slave to passing fashion? And, among those of you who DO manscape, which of the infinite varieties of cut and trim do you prefer? Do you just trim it up? Or do you go for the total shave down? Take a look at the chart below and match your manscaping style…
Pass The Butt-Hair Please
Of all the parts on our bodies there’s something somewhat peculiar about our butts. Not that a butt in itself is peculiar, it’s our reactions to it. Right now our straight readers are probably going “ewww. gross! butts? i’m outta here.” And right now our gay readers are probably going “ooooh nice. about time!” Most guys will tell you that they either never think about their own butts or that the butt they’re sitting on is pretty much perfect. And, whatever you may think about your own butt, you pretty much can’t deny that one of the highest compliments a guy can receive is that he’s got a “cute ass.”
Well, ’nuff said about that. Let’s take a look…if you dare…at your derriere. What kind of butt do you possess? Flat? Bubble? Bountiful? What about butt hair? Do you have a furry one? Smooth one? Or somewhere in between? Does butt hair distress you and make you want to run for the razor? Or is it something you wish you had more of? Crack open the polls (yes, pun intended) and let’s see where we sit.
A Shopper’s Guide To Sex Products (via Consumer Reports)
Confused by the wide array of sex products out there? Don’t apologize, it can be a bit overwhelming. (And heck, these are just the traditional ones haha.) Well here’s an article that might help sift through the latex, lube, and lollipop colors. The following was published in February, 2010 at ConsumerReports.org…
Personal Lubricants
Even if you don’t usually have a dryness problem, lubricants are good to keep around. problems might crop up if you’re taking an antihistamine for a cold, for example, because those drugs dry out tissues throughout your body. Some of the products you’ve probably seen advertised lately and might have wondered about include K-Y Yours + mine (sexual lubricants for couples), Intrigue (a long-lasting silicone-based lubricant), and Liquibeads (not made just for sexual encounters, it’s an insert containing a vaginal moisturizer that lasts up to four days).
Shopping tip
Consider the type of sensation you prefer. Silicone-based lubricants have a more slippery feel, while water-based ones allow for more friction and are easier to rinse off.
Warming Agents
You can buy warming lubricants such as Astroglide Warming Liquid ($6.50 for 2.5 ounces) and K-Y’s Sensual Silk Warming ($6.89 for 4.5 ounces), or condoms that contain a warming lubricant, such as Lifestyles Warming pleasure (see next page). most contain glycerine, which releases heat from the body when it comes into contact with moist skin. That mimics the feeling of blood rushing to a certain body part, which is why it can be pleasurable. Some of these products contain menthol, which can create a warming sensation in some people and a cooling feeling in others (no, we’re not sure why you’d want that either).
Shopping tip
Warming agents come in many forms: condoms, mists, liquids, and massage products.
New Kinds of Condoms
The selection goes way beyond ribbed, non-ribbed, latex, and lambskin. Today’s condoms have all kinds of bells and whistles (almost literally!)
Climax Control
Lined with a numbing lubricant like benzocaine to keep it all from being over too quickly.
Mega/Magnum
Code words for “supersized.”
Tingling
Contains menthol, acacia honey, or other ingredients to provide a heating or cooling sensation on contact.
Vibrating ring
A studded silicone ring with a battery inside fits at the base of the condom and promises to deliver pleasurable sensations to both partners.
Shopping tip
If you’re shy about standing in the store aisle reading the box, go online to do your research beforehand. The manufacturers’ Web sites are fonts of information. Some even have coupons you can print out.
Female Condom
Female condoms have been sold for years but they never really caught on, accounting for just 0.2 percent of all condom use worldwide. The Fc female condom costs about $3 apiece and is sold in drugstores. And there’s a new version due out by the end of the year, which should cost close to $2.
Shopping tip
When Fc2 hits store shelves, try the less expensive version first. The female condom is made of polyurethane, so latex allergies shouldn’t be an issue. Just be sure to practice using it before a sexual encounter; it takes time to learn to insert it properly.
The Sponge
You may remember the Today contraceptive sponge from years back or from “Seinfeld,” when elaine declared a date “spongeworthy.” It’s now back. The sponge costs about $15 for three and contains nonoxynol-9 spermicide, so it prevents pregnancy non-hormonally, by “deactivating” sperm on contact. but as we said before, the spermicide can cause irritation.
Shopping tip
If you become a sponge user, consider joining the SpongeWorthy club at todaysponge.com for discounts.
Plan B One-Step
Condom broke? This one-dose pill can help prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Typically referred to as the “morning after pill,” Plan B is what’s called emergency contraception. It contains high doses of the hormone levonorgestrel, which is in many birth control pills. If you take it within 72 hours after intercourse—the sooner the better—Plan B can prevent the ovaries from releasing an egg, stop an egg from being fertilized, or block a fertilized egg from becoming implanted in the uterus. (Unlike the controversial prescription drug ru-486, which many people confuse with Plan B, this over-the-counter medication will not cause expulsion of an implanted fertilized egg.) Plan B costs about $50 and is now sold at drugstores, so you don’t have to ask a doctor or clinic for it (as long as you’re older than 17).
Shopping tip
Can’t find Plan B on the shelf? Ask your pharmacist; it’s kept behind the counter.
Arousal Gel
Think extra stimulation. According to Durex, maker of utopia gel, only 32 percent of women regularly achieve orgasm during intercourse, but 79 percent did while using its product ($15.95 for 0.51 fluid ounces). LifeStyles X2 condoms contain excite arousal gel inside and out ($1 apiece, 12 per box). (We did not test these.)
Shopping tip
Check sex-product labels for an ingredient called L-Arginine. It helps to increase blood flow, which may lead to a more enjoyable sexual encounter when applied to the clitoris. (It’s in the Durex utopia.)
Plain Brown Wrappers
If you’d rather shop from the privacy of home, you can find condoms and many other sex products at these Web sites:
- Amazon.com has customer reviews of many products in its Health & personal care section. Go there and click on Sexual Wellness.
- Condomania.com can suggest products. Try its condom Wizard and Lucy Lube interactive tools.
- CVS.com has a Sexual Health section, and at drugstore.com, the Sexual Well-being section offers discounts on featured products.
- Babeland.com and goodvibes.com are women-owned, women-operated sex stores, recommended by “sexpert” Pepper Schwartz.
Never Say Never
We all have our different levels of experience when it comes to…well everything in life. A lot of it has to do with age. But, a lot of it has to do with our ambitions, our fears, our boundaries, our creativity, and our desires. Each of us probably has some sort of working list of things we’ve never done and would really like to. Likewise, we all probably have a mental list of things that we’re just not interested in ever doing. And then there’s the “serendipity” factor. Sometimes things just come up and those activities we never thought we’d encounter, or that we never thought we would do, we end up doing. It just seems like to thing to do at the time.
So what’s on your “I want to do” list? What’s on your “No, I’d never do that” list? And, somewhere in the back of your mind, do you ever say, “Never say never”?
Cue The Movie — What Do Guys Think About When They Masturbate?
The mind is a wonderful thing. It’s capable of creating and playing out pretty much any situation or scene you want it to. In black and white, in full living color, in Dolby surround sound if you want. The quality of the movie is only limited by your imagination. This comes in nicely when it comes to masturbation…if you want it to. Lay back, close your eyes, cue the movie.
There are plenty of guys who don’t imagine, fantasize, or think or anything in particular when they beat it. They are content to just go at the deed without any additional stimulation.
Then there are those who prefer to let electronics do the movie-making. They spank the monkey to a wide variety of visuals they find on the Internet or possibly keep hidden on DVDs in the back of their closet. Their session is usually done in front of the computer, in bed with the laptop, or in the bathroom with their cell phone.
So what kinds of things float your boat when you beat? Whether they are self-created fantasies playing out in your mind or downloadable files playing out on your PC, what kinds of images get you going?
Hard At Work
Hard at work? According to numerous studies one of the most persistent male fantasies is to have sex with someone at work. Sweep everything off the desk…sneak into the conference room with that big empty meeting table…have your tie ripped off and go…the sexy customer seduces you while you’re mowing her lawn…you get the idea. Not too surprising that guys think about that kind of stuff given how much of our daily lives are spent in the workplace.
In fact, according to a survey conducted by Playboy magazine, 42% of Americans report that they have actually fulfilled this fantasy. Their report breaks it down to 38% of men and 48% of women have been workin’ it at the workplace.
According to a survey in “Playboy” magazine, 38% of men and 48% of women have been working their bodies on company time. And, surprisingly enough (possibly) the women have us guys beat when it comes to getting it on at work:
– 46% of women have bedded their boss compared to only 18% of men.
– 45%t of women have had sex on their desk, compared to only 33% of guys.
– 20% of women will gladly sleep with interns compared to only 12% of men.
But that’s not all. What about those of us that don’t actually have sex at work, but engage in…..uh….er…..other tension-relieving activities? C’mon, we’re guys. We spend a lot of time at work. What about jacking off at work? Well another study reports, as you might imagine, it’s pretty common. A recent survey that polled over 29,000 people determined that 67% of straight guys have beat it at work and 63% of gay guys have done so as well.
So how do you spend your days at work? Have you had a go with a co-worker? Spanked it while on the job? Take the polls and let us know. And, then, back to work…
Boner Size: How Many Guys Have What
The following is a look at statistics collected by LifeStyles regarding average penis length and girth (circumference). LifeStlyes, as you probably know is a leading manufacturer of condoms. So, guess they know what they are talking about.
The following charts take a look at how many of us guys are at what particular size. It’s one thing to say that the average size penis is at a certain measurement, but how many of us are bigger than average? How many of us are smaller than average? Basically, average doesn’t mean everybody’s got it, so the following charts reveal how many of us have what. Make sense?
Fair warning. There’s gonna be a little math talk ahead. None of us here are math whizzes, so we’ll try to speak as plainly as possible.
A few things first about their study. Length measurements were taken along the TOP side of the penis from the base to the tip. So if you want to compare what you have, make sure you’re measuring the same way. (Many guys like to measure on the side which adds an inch or so). We’ve reported before that the combined averages of several studies puts the average length at about 5.5 inches and the average girth at about 4.8 inches. The LifeStyles study itself puts the numbers a little bit higher. Just FYI.
Erect Penis Length
The results end up in a distinct bell shaped curve with most of us hovering in the 5 to 7 inch range. Guys who are less than that or more than that are not horribly common. The study finds that the average length is 5.88 inches. 75% of all guys will fall close to that. Due to the nature of distribution, the median (or the point where 50% of us will be above and 50% of us will be below) is at 5.65 inches.
You may have noticed that the numbers only go up to 9 inches. Reportedly, less than 1 guy in 10,000 has a 10 incher. And, less than 5,000 people in the world have an 11 incher. In case you wondered.
Erect Penis Girth (Circumference)
Circumference is the measurement around a cylinder. Not the width or distance across. So circumference, or girth, is how thick you are. This study finds that 85% of all guys are between 4 and 5.5 inches fat. The median is 4.67 (the point where 50% will be larger and 50% will be smaller.)
Oh Brother
A guy’s relationship with his brother (or brothers) can be a complicated thing. Sometimes we just don’t get along. Sometimes we’re the best of friends. Sometimes our relationship evolves over time from buddy to enemy and back again. It’s probably safe to say however, that no matter what, the love is there somewhere and your brother is the first person to jump to your aid in times of trouble. Well, mostly.
As we’re growing up and going through the inevitable and mysterious body changes that growing up brings, our older brothers are often the only clue we may have to things like how tall will we be? how hairy? how heavy? how skinny? how bald? While it’s not necessarily true that we will turn out looking like our older brother exactly, it can be our only guide.
As far as our younger brother’s go, we often become the model that they look to for the things we just mentioned above. A younger brother can definitely be a pain in the @$$, but he can also be someone we mentor and guide through the tangled world of growing up.
We may know our brothers intimately, or hardly at all. We may be close or distant. We may harass, tease, and beat each other up. But, whatever we are, brothers are some of the most important and influential people in our lives. How well do you know yours?
That Gray Zone — When Straight Guys Have Sex With Guys (PART 3)
This is the third part in our series that explores one of those yeah-its-there-but-no-one-ever-really-talks-about-it subjects: straight guys who have had, continue to have, or want to have sex with other guys. It’s out there for sure. In fact, as some studies have reported, somewhere up to 46% of all guys have had sex to the point of orgasm with another guy at some point in their lives. And that’s ALL guys, straight and gay alike.
So, if you look at it a different way, next time you and 9 of your friends get together, chances are 4 or 5 out of the 10 of you either have done it or will do it at some point in their lives. Maybe one of those 4 or 5 are you.
The series has brought out a lot of honesty from people and we commend you all for that. Like we said, it’s not the kind of topic that comes up in the school lunchroom very often. But that’s what we’re here for. The series has also brought up a lot of reader response and questions. So here’s another post on the topic to get some more information on the topic…
Recognize (A Challenge For You)
If you’ve read much of our blog at all, it’s no secret that we are big fans of talking to someone about the problems that bother you and letting out the secrets that weigh heavy inside. Easily said. Actually opening up and spilling the hard stuff to a real person can be a bit daunting. But, as we personally know, the benefits of going through that fear can be awesome.
Often the best person to open up the hard stuff with is someone who isn’t part of your inner circle of friends…someone who is a bit separated in some way from your day to day life. Your best friend or your close friends might be too close to the situation. The situation might even be about them. Think more of someone with possibly a little broader perspective and that doesn’t necessarily have influence in your own particular crowd. For example it could be a relative, an older friend, a teacher, a pastor, a counselor, or maybe your buddy’ older brother.
So here’s a little challenge for you. If you have some guy like that in your life that you COULD go to if you had a heavy burden, a weighty secret, a troubling issue, or a concern about something you can’t quite figure out, here’s a chance to recognize. Just put down the first name of the person you’re thinking about in the polls below. The poll has several representative names in case we hit one right. More than likely you’ll have to use the “other” selection and write in the name yourself.
What’s the point? Well, maybe by taking that first little baby step of listing a person’s name it can work as a first, safe little baby step towards the resolution of your issue. Maybe putting their name out there in a public forum can help also to put them in your mind should you need them at some point. And maybe just posting their name is a quiet way of just saying thank you for being there.
And not to worry. This blog is anonymous. If you put down someone’s first name, no one is really going to know who they actually are or that you personally put their name out there. There’s tons of people with the same names anyway, so who can tell?
So you feeling up to the challenge? Want to dare it? Go for it. Put a person’s name down that you can go to if you need to talk. You might just be glad you did.
Throwin’ A Curve?
As much as we guys would like to think so, there probably isn’t anything such as the perfectly beautiful, perfectly symmetrical, perfectly proportioned penis. Penises come in all shapes and sizes and yes, not all of them are perfectly straight. In fact, while most of us point straight, a good many of us have some curvature going on whether to the left or right, up or down, and even possibly a combination of side-to-side along with up or down.
According to the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, Vol. 23 (1997), in which penises, their lengths, angles, and curvatures were measured from a photographic sample of around 500 or so participants, 13.6% of erections lean to the left slightly when erect and 1.2% of penises curve towards the right. 22.2% were found to bend up and 14.8% bent slightly downward.
Kinsey’s research came up with similar findings. In his studies he gauged 87.3% as being “straight” erections, 9.5% as being left-curves and the remaining 2.4% as right curves. His studies also found 24.9% of us have penises that curve up slightly. (Numbers for downward curves were not available).
So if you’ve got a bit of a bend to your banana, not to worry. It’s perfectly normal and doesn’t hamper the performance of penetrative sex. And, no, it isn’t caused by beating it too much with any particular hand. It’s just the way you are.
If however, you exhibit more of a severe curvature and it’s painful, this could be a non-life-threatening and treatable condition called Peyronie’s disease and you should get that checked out by your doctor or urologist.
So are you throwing a curve? Take a look at the graph and tell us how you’re….leaning.
That Gray Zone — When Straight Guys Have Sex With Guys (PART 2)
Out last post about the prevalence of straight guys experimenting and having sex with other guys elicited a lot of questions and comments that called for a follow up. True to what was reported, many straight guys responded to say that yes, they indeed have had, or continue to have sex with guys here and there. Thank you all for your honesty, we know that’s not always easy.
We also received inquiries from straight guys to say that although they have not experimented, they were curious as to how to bring something like that up and actually do it. They were concerned, and rightly so, that this can be a delicate area…one possibly that you don’t just casually jump into with your buddy when he’s sleeping over or with the guys in gym class. But it seems to be a topic that’s on a lot of straight guy’s minds. Let’s state however, that sexual experimentation is definitely NOT a topic on ALL straight guy’s minds. For many straight guys it may be the last thing on their mind. But it does seem to be there for quite a few.
So those of you that have been there, help your fellow guys out. How did it happen with you? Would you recommend it? Fill us in. (Remember if the choices in the polls do not accurately fit, write a more correct answer under other or leave a comment telling your tale. Thanks!)
That Gray Zone — When Straight Guys Have Sex With Guys
It’s not talked about very often, probably not admitted to much, but fact is straight guys experiment sexually…whether it’s often or not…they have sex with other guys. The statistics vary somewhat as to exactly how many guys who identify as straight experiment, but when you look at the studies that have been conducted, they all come to the basic conclusion that straight guys having sex with other guys is pretty common. Here are some of the reports and their conclusions…
A recent survey conducted by Adam & Eve, a supplier of adult products, found that “17% of heterosexual adults admit being attracted to someone of the same gender! Of those respondents who indicated they have been attracted to someone of the same sex, a surprising 36% said they had acted on that attraction in a sexual way.” “This confirms what we have always suspected,” says sex and relationship expert Dr. Kat Van Kirk. “Most people’s orientations are not as rigid as once believed…It reinforces the need for acceptance of all ‘brands’ of sexuality… gay, straight or otherwise. Obviously, many people who are not identifying as gay or lesbian, are indeed attracted to same sex partners and/or have acted on it.”
Another study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control concluded that “There’s growing evidence that many men who have sex with men aren’t all gay or bisexual…more than 3 million men who self-identify as straight secretly have sex with other men…“
Another recent New York City survey that appeared in the September 19, 2006, issue of the Annals of Internal Medicine found that nearly 1 in 10 men say they’re straight and have occasional sex with men. In addition, 70 percent of these men are heterosexually married. In fact, 10 percent of all married men in this survey reported engaging in same-sex behavior during the previous year.
Other surveys have found that as many as 46% of all guys, whether they identify as straight, gay, or bi, have had sex of some nature with another guy to the point of orgasm.
Whether it’s actually true or not, there’s a commonly held viewpoint that girls experiment with each other all the time, and nothing much is thought of that. For whatever reason, the viewpoint of guys doing the same thing seems to have much more of a stigma attached to it. Hence, there is a often a great deal of mystery surrounding the subject.
Seems as though the fact remains, guys of all orientations…straight and gay alike…often experiment. The practice may be as simple as younger teens checking things out, having fun, or exploring their new found sexuality or out and out straight guys who don’t mind dabbling on the other team now and again.
Whatever the actual numbers, and whatever the actual reasons, a good many of us go for it. Do you? Have you? Would you?
It Gets Better
Here’s a little Friday Feature for anybody who might need it out there. Enjoy…
How Do Guys Jack Off (Revisited) PART THREE
Here’s the latest part in our definitive collection of surveys that seek to answer the question: How do guys masturbate? Like we said it’s kind of a big topic so hopefully we’re not wearing you out with a three-parter lol. Take a look at the surveys below and let’s complete the picture. And don’t forget to check out Parts One and Two if you haven’t already.
AND REMEMBER: You can answer as many entries on each poll as you want. If you don’t see an answer that fits, choose “OTHER” and type the right answer.
How Do Guys Jack Off? (Revisited) PART TWO
Yes, masturbation and exactly HOW guys do it is a big topic. We’ve put together the definitive collection of polls to dig into the topic. Here’s part two (and be sure to catch part one if you haven’t already)…
How Do Guys Jack Off? (Revisited) PART ONE
There have been a lot of inquiries about the subject of how exactly guys masturbate. Not sure if it’s girls who are curious about what we do, newbies who haven’t tried it, or just other guys who are curious about how everyone else does it. Masturbation is pretty much a universal experience for practically all guys, whether it’s just once in a while or several times a day. So the curiosity makes sense. It is however kind of shrouded in mystery. After all, it’s mostly done in private and not exactly the topic of your typical dinnertime conversation or major hollywood movie. Well, whatever the reason, we’ve put together this comprehensive survey list to dig into it. We’ve covered the whens, wheres, hows and how oftens in several posts throughout this blog, but here for the first time, we’re putting it all together to get definitive answers to the questions, “How DO guys jack off?” (This is part one, be one the lookout for part two…it’s gonna take a couple posts lol)
5 More Ways To Have Fun With SecretGuyStuff Blog
Here at SecretGuyStuff we strive to provide open-minded, accurate, and objective information about sex, sexuality, health, growing up, issues, more for guys. We try to keep things pertinent for all guys no matter if they are straight, gay, bi, questioning, or anything else. Hopefully we’re hitting the mark.
Most of you come here for information, entertainment, or to find out about a situation you might be going through. But, we’ve come up with some ways to get even more out of the blog in the coming year…
1. EDUCATE. Got a friend or a brother who’s got questions, concerns? Not completely sure of your info or maybe uncomfortable talking about that kind of stuff? Be a buddy and tell him about SecretGuyStuff.
2. DISCOVER. Thinking one of your friends may be gay or bi and don’t know how to talk to him about it? Want to come out to a friend about your own sexuality and can’t seem to find a way? Turn him on to SecretGuyStuff. Check out the blog together. The discussion is bound to come up.
3. EXPLORE. Curious about how you compare with a friend? Same thing. Check out SecretGuyStuff together and see what’s going on.
4. EXPERIMENT. Want to try jacking off with a friend? Got someone in mind? Don’t know how to bring the subject up safely? Use SecretGuyStuff as an icebreaker to initate the conversation and see what happens.
5. ENTERTAIN. Looking for an interesting, provocative game to play with your buddies? Maybe during a sleepover or a boring Saturday night? Play SECRET GUY STUFF TRUTH OR DARE. Use the polls on SGS to challenge your friends with those tough questions….or they have to take the dare. Bound to be lots of fun.
If you’ve got a story about how you’ve used SecretGuyStuff or an additional idea, email us at SecretGuyStuff@gmail.com
That’ll Put Hair On Your Chest (Chest Hair Revisited)
Chest hair is another development on our journey that is often a source of attention, mystery, and possibly concern. For whatever reason, a hairy chest is often associated in popular culture with virility. Of course, the amount of hair you have on your chest has pretty much nothing to do with you level of manliness.
Some guys yearn for the day when they get chest hair, others wish they didn’t have any. And, like leg hair, pretty much the opinions are split between people who think chest hair is sexy and people who think chest hair is a turnoff. So, once again, is what it is and hopefully isn’t a source of concern. Hey, you can always trim, shave, or wax it if you don’t like it. Unfortunately, short of pasting on an Austin Powers-style chest wig, there’s not much you can do to get it if you don’t have it. Not even, eating crazy things that people always say “will put hair on your chest.”
On the average, the development of chest hair normally begins some time late in puberty, typically between the ages of 16 and 19. It can of course begin before that, or more typically later on between the ages of 20 and 30. Many men still in their twenties have not yet reached their full chest hair development potential. So, just like with a lot of things there’s a typical time period for development, but it can vary widely. We’ve all seen those guys in the high school locker room who were pretty young but were sporting the chest hair early. And, many of us have gone a long time without much if any chest hair only to see it start growing on us in our twenties and wondering what the heck is going on. Chest hair can grow on several places on the chest such as around the nipples, in the center, along the top, or completely all over. It varies greatly in placement, thickness, density and even pattern.
Let’s take a look at your chest hair development. Use the above picture of Michael Phelps (thanks Mike) to compare with your own chest and let’s see what’s going on with everyone. The first polls ask you to consider the individual areas, then the chest as a whole…
This One’s Got Legs!
It’s a fact of a guy’s life: your legs are gonna get hairy. How hairy? That all depends on your genetics. The development/existence of leg hair can be a source of pride or concern for a lot of guys. Many guys don’t pay it any attention, but some get concerned they are too hairy…or not hairy enough. They may even get teased about the amount of their leg hair, whether it’s “too little” or “too much”. Well nothing to be concerned about. For every person that thinks hairy is gross ther’s another person that thinks hairy is sexy. For every person that thinks you have too little, there’s another person who thinks you have too much. So it’s all pretty realative.
In fact, after studying several studies asking both men and women if they find hairy legs sexy or not so hairy legs sexy, the results are split. Here’s a poll taken by hotmalelegs.com, a predominently gay oriented blog about guys legs, that asked it’s readers what they thought of male leg hair…
The results are pretty evenly spread. Some think hairy is sexy, some don’t. Similar surveys that we reviewed that asked women the same question revealed similar results. Pretty much just as many women who think hairy legs are sexy think not so hairy legs are sexy.
So whatever you are don’t be concerned. Leg hair is a badge of being a grown guy. Pretty much nobody really cares how much you have, so you shouldn’t either.
Join The Club?
They go by many names…Masturbation Party, Jack Off Party, Circle Jerk Club, Jerkin’ Club, and so on. It’s a semi-formal gathering of a group of guys (friends or otherwise) that get together and hold a party or have a regularly scheduling meeting where everyone masturbates. Sound strange? It’s more common than you may think.
Masturbation is a common experience to pretty much all guys. Masturbating with a friend or two is also pretty common. So getting together with a bunch of buddies for the purpose of jacking off together isn’t all that crazy. Masturbating with another guy isn’t a straight, gay, or bi thing. It’s a guy thing. And many guys do it together for fun no matter their sexual orientation. So why not make a party of it, right?
If you’re thinking of starting or attending such a gathering, here are a few simple guidelines and ground rules that are recommended by other clubs…
1. Everybody Does It. Not much point in having such a gathering if people aren’t going to participate. So no sneaking off to the bathroom by yourself, or just sitting there watching.
2. Clothes or No Clothes? It might be helpful to stipulate if this is expected to be a nude gathering or not. Going nude might make it more interesting…or intimidating for your pals.
3. No sex. Most clubs/parties don’t allow any sex beyond just masturbating. Hey, this isn’t supposed to be a gay orgy. You might decide to allow mutual masturbation if everyone agrees, but save the other stuff for other parties.
4. Watch the fluids. Fact is seminal fluid can contain viruses, etc. So be careful where that stuff goes.
5. Confidentiality. These kinds of things fall into the category you really don’t want to pics posted on the Internet about or gossiped about at school. Make a pact that what goes on here, stays here.
Have you ever been to such a party? Would you go? Sound interesting or totally freaky? Let us know…
