Questions/Discussions
Welcome to the Q & A page. This is the place to ask your questions, hopefully get some answers, suggest a survey, find out the things you’re looking to find out, or maybe respond to somebody else regarding a situation or experience you may have in common.
Some groundrules: Please be respectful towards one another. No hate allowed. Also if you’re looking to post or read erotic or porn stories, this is not the place for you. This is also not the place for pick-ups or love connections. This is meant for serious discussion of the issues and questions guys have about being a guy. Thanks in advance for your interest, your trust, and your cooperation.
umm any posts about butthole stimulation?
November 2, 2010 at 10:00 PM
Yeah we haven’t really delved into that a whole lot yet. Thanks for stepping up and bringing up a topic that many are reluctant to bring up. But hey it’s a part of things. It’s mentioned in a couple polls about masturbation habits but that’s pretty much it so far. Anything in particular you’d like to know? see?
November 5, 2010 at 10:50 AM
I just found this blog today and I love it…! I can relate to it in so many levels, it’s like you guys got into my mind and stole my very hidden and personal thoughts, those thoughts I’ve never told to anyone before. Can’t wait to read more, as much as I can and I’d also like to know is there’s some kind of chat or Private Message system that I could use to talk to the people who created this blog or with guys who love ths blog just like me, I mean if we are all here it’s because we all have something very important in common, we are all guys here and with the same questions, curiosities and with the desire of having more male influence in our lives, that male bonding that’s been a taboo for so long. Hope to her from you soon.
August 1, 2011 at 12:30 AM
Wow thanks for your comments! Glad to hear you’ve found a blog that speaks to you. We try! haha. Sorry to say that right now there is no chat or private message or discussion forum on the blog, although that’s a distinct possibility in the not too distant future. The best I could suggest for now is to join us on Twitter http://twitter.com/SecretGuyStuff or on Facebook http://tinyurl.com/65cwb2t and pick up a discussion there. Just curious how old are you and how did you hear about the blog?
August 1, 2011 at 11:26 AM
i may have jacked off in my science class should i goto school?
October 27, 2011 at 8:39 PM
I love it. anything from just rubbing the outside to inserting a toy. I love it. Sometimes when I go for a massage with a happy ending, if the girl plays with my butt I encourage it. Sometimes they slip a finger in and I love it.
August 1, 2011 at 1:29 PM
It is very stimulating.
September 3, 2011 at 9:03 AM
I agree I love it to when a girl sticks a finger in my ass I had a girl do it when she was giving me a blow job.
December 11, 2011 at 1:48 AM
yes, like how many guys do it or how much hair is suppose to be there?
November 7, 2010 at 7:55 PM
Are you talking about self stimulation or stimulation of a girl/guy?
November 7, 2010 at 8:24 PM
self stimulation
November 7, 2010 at 9:03 PM
Well to answer your question, I’m not exactly sure how many guys do that, but I do know it is very very common. The butthole and surrounding area is def an erogenous zone so whether alone or with someone it’s the target of attention for many. Unfortunately it’s also high on the list of body areas that peeps may have an issue with as well…whether going there in the first place or admitting to it. But nonetheless stimulating that area is pretty common. I’ll have to dig into it more to find out exactly how common.
As far as hair goes, yeah that’s one of the potentially more hairy areas on a guy…that and the area from the balls to the anus can often get hairy…or not…depends on the guy.
November 9, 2010 at 9:22 PM
How about what body types guys are attracted to (guys and girls)? The type of porn they watch (gay and str8)? And the way they masturbate?
January 3, 2011 at 8:53 PM
Good suggestions! We will dig into that.
January 5, 2011 at 5:11 PM
Great post! can’t keep off of this website as soon as I get home from school! Although I don’t if you’ve talked about it or maybe i’ve missed it but have you gone through attractions like guys looking at other guys or admitting when they see someone good looking would they recognize it or shrug it off? And like guys who take care of themselves like profile face ect. wise and all that stuff. Those are maybe some thoughts I thought I should contribute.
February 27, 2011 at 5:20 PM
Wow, thanks Jonathan! Really appreciate your comments and glad you’re a fan. Your ideas are really good, we’ll dig into that and hopefully come up with something soon. You said “great post”. Which post were you referring to?
February 27, 2011 at 5:39 PM
I was referring to everything in general everything on here is great! Finally somebody is exposing the taboo’s in guy world.
February 27, 2011 at 6:15 PM
Oh I getcha. Well awesome, we try! haha. Glad to have you aboard!
February 27, 2011 at 6:18 PM
what do guys think about sex while having it
March 1, 2011 at 4:44 PM
not sure i’m getting what you mean exactly scotty…explain?
March 1, 2011 at 5:20 PM
I think they think “OMG I can’t believe I am doing this!” (I know I do, LOL)
October 13, 2011 at 3:22 PM
i mean when guy have sex what do they think about
March 2, 2011 at 9:43 AM
um I was just curious but like sometimes when I finger myself I get shit on my finger… and I wanted to know how I can resolve this problem, is it because I’m not wiping right?
March 6, 2011 at 4:00 PM
wipe better
June 24, 2011 at 11:40 PM
Fleet has plain douche product that can be used to clean the anal / rectal area—or you can get a douche (don’t forget to apply lub to the douche and the anus),fill it with water, squirt it in—sometimes I use lub and kleenex so I can clean the area better—wash cloth and soap works. The problem with toilet paper is that it is dry and doesn’t always do the job well. Consider what adults do when they change a babies diaper.
July 10, 2011 at 6:42 PM
Use moist wipes (some of these can’t be flushed), then regular toilet paper. That should solve the problem most of the time.
July 12, 2011 at 10:34 AM
It would be interesting to find out how many guys DO NOT use deodorant.
The choices could be: Never, sometimes, allways use deodorant.
Then why: I shower often – don’t need it, alergic to it, I like a natural male smell
March 21, 2011 at 8:41 PM
I was wondering cant you do one on blow jobs
April 9, 2011 at 10:44 PM
anyone shave their chest and stomach? I want to leave some hair and a happy trail just not sure how to make it look natural? and how to shave my dick and balls to look natural? any ideas or pics?
May 2, 2011 at 10:11 PM
Use Magic “CREAM SHAVE” I use it all the time. I get it at Walgreens or Target. Makes my penis look like a new-born infant. Keeps all the cum out of the hair and just use a small towel to clean up the cum.
May 11, 2011 at 10:30 AM
anyone have any suggestions for this post?
June 27, 2011 at 6:52 PM
I shave balls and dick dry. Pull razor in all directions for a smooth finish
September 3, 2011 at 9:05 AM
anyone have any suggestions for my post about shaving my chest and stomach? or any pics?
June 27, 2011 at 8:09 PM
Ya!!!please do a post on that! I used to shave my chest but then stopped cuz it looked weird or when it grew back I had to shae it before anyone saw so they didn’t know I was shaving and stuff. It doesn’t bother me as much now but maybe to trim? Or something. Idk. But that’d b a good post:)
July 26, 2011 at 10:09 PM
hi am 19 years most boys cant wait till they get hairs on thre cocks then when you get hair you what to shave it off why.I have a hairs on my chest and i happy trail down to my hairy cock ldont shave it your a man not a wee boy
September 3, 2011 at 1:56 AM
Some like the smooth feel. I have shaved it before I had a girlfriend who liked it shethat shaved her pussy to it felt good when we had sexually intercourse it felt good. Now I trim the bush and shave the balls. Also when it is shaved you don’t get hair in your mouthand during oral sex.
December 2, 2011 at 1:50 AM
I think its super sexy when a guy is clean shaven down there!such a turn on!
March 30, 2012 at 5:49 PM
If a girl that seems to like you, then finds out you watch gay porn what will she think, about you?
May 13, 2011 at 12:23 PM
Well that’s really hard to say in such general terms. If you’re talking about a girl you want to have a relationship with i would say that most girls that I have known generally don’t seem to like or understand that their boyfriends watch porn at all. Watching gay porn I would guess would be extra confusing. But who knows? Maybe the girl you’re talking about is cool with those things, or wants to join in haha. If it’s just a friend who doesn’t know you are into that stuff, again i couldn’t say how she might react. Different people have very diff attitudes about porn, gay porn, and all that stuff.
May 14, 2011 at 11:33 PM
Drake, ever heard of M/M Romance? Nearly every straight girl I know goes nuts for these erotic romance novels about gay guys. Free ones are fanfic written about their favorite movie characters like Harry Potter and that sparkly vampire. And they are GRAPHIC! If your girl is at all interested in that, she’ll totally watch the gay porn with you
June 5, 2011 at 1:08 PM
What do most guys do the first couple times the experiment with eachother?
May 15, 2011 at 7:37 AM
hi im 15 and have a question? i dont know weather im gay or straight? but my uncle (s) is very hot and he is str8 nad i wanna ask him to jerk off with me? how can i ask him with out scaring him away?
email me at jakeoapkeller24@yahoo.com for the answer thanks?
May 15, 2011 at 10:10 PM
i was wondering if you guys could make a poll on the users on this site:/
i know we should not be labeling ourselves, but i am really curious on who really uses these blogs.
thanks
May 30, 2011 at 6:27 AM
Hey man, great website! Would love to see more ‘what would you do if…’ scenarios! Lots of Love! <3
May 31, 2011 at 3:39 PM
hello i was wondering if you knew of any website like this for girls? and very interesting stuff. It made me realize that guys have a lot of insecurities too and that there’s a person behind all of that “tough guy”
June 2, 2011 at 6:43 PM
Sorry Sophie, I don’t. If I run across something I’ll post about it. And thanks for your comments!! That’s too nice of you!!
June 2, 2011 at 9:25 PM
Thank you SO much for this blog!!! Finally I found that place, can’t stop reading all the articles. Guys REALLY needed a place like this, hope you won’t stop writing.
What about making a poll like “When was the first time you…” jacked off, got cum, done it with friends, etc.
or “How old have you been when…” 
June 8, 2011 at 3:59 AM
I had a topic I was hoping to learn more about. I had a conversation with my best friend awhile ago and she was telling me how she had only been with circumcised guys and that she wouldn’t be with an uncircumcised guy. She also thought most people in the world were circumcised and I enlightened her that most guys in the world are uncircumcised. I also heard from another friend that she hadn’t been with an uncircumcised guy either and that she “wouldn’t do it”. After that conversation I feel like being uncircumcised is a stigma. I mean, I find uncircumcised guys attractive. I was just wondering if there were any other guys who felt like this, and what other guys thought about being circumcised or uncircumcised.
June 15, 2011 at 12:49 AM
I think a lot of people don’t understand or have a ton of misconceptions about what an uncut cock is all about. I’m uncut and I was so nervous about just springing it on my boyfriend that I made sure to tell him first like some kind of confession! Which was ridiculous, of course, but that’s what I was led to believe might be necessary from comments others made (like your friends). He was curious, though, and now he loves that I have a fun “accessory” that he gets to “play with”. I found a really great resource in http://www.intactforlife.com that’s helped me and friends understand being uncut a lot better.
June 15, 2011 at 1:58 PM
Check out our latest post for another look at this controversial topic!!
June 16, 2011 at 11:48 PM
Here is the deal, I can really identify with the story about Dillon the hockey player. While I’ve always been a lot like him, I to like a more intimate relationship with my friends. It isn’t about sex for me. It’s not that. When I was younger like in high school, it was with friends I grew up with, In the military we had reason to be close. But know at age 37 I’m feeling alone. Nothing about how I feel has changed. But people move on, get married have kids of their own and don’t have time for me. I’m back in college now. And for a time I had some good company. My good friend, whom was in his early 20′s freaked, because he thought I was gay for him. I’m not that, but my feelings for him was as strong as I felt for my X, that I was going to marry. Before she left me for someone else anyway. It sucks! That blow out took most of my friends I had there also.
At my age I just don’t seem to find any place to fit in. People that seem to be like me whom are younger stay with in there social circles and I don’t necessarily fit in. People my age like I said moved on. I would like to get married and have kids of my own, but have not found a gal the suits me. I wonder is she exists? I’m getting old, I also look for a girl that is younger so we might have kids safely. Time does run out. I feel like it is for me. If that is the case, I’m down with a relationship with another male, but how the hell do I find someone that wants this sort of bond? One that isn’t some flaming homosexual?
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve known people who are gay and some have been really cool. But the whole idea of top and bottom stuff freaks me out. I have been sexually assaulted. I got the PTSD and depression to show for it. It is not a memory I don’t care to repeat. I will shoot anyone that tries. When my friend bolted and I finally put two and two together as to why, I vomited amongst other things. I took it very hard… I miss him.
I think this is an informative website. I think this really could help a lot of young man understand there feelings and their sexuality. I just discovered it myself last night. I’d suggest more about protecting oneself from getting hurt. No one needs to feel the sort of pain I felt loosing someone that meant so much to me, because of misunderstanding and his own immaturity. That and the people that might take advantage of you, predators via the net and in life. I’m studying to be a cop. Between that and my past I know there are wackos around. So be careful out there.
June 18, 2011 at 4:39 AM
Hey Chris, I hear you. I had close to the same experience. While in college I was about 20 years older than my friends but pretty much looked like I fit in. I never lied about my age but I didn’t make it the first thing I told people either. Some kids mildly freaked out when they learned how old I was; it was pretty painful. Some friendships which started out great kind of went dead after they found out. You can’t blame them. There is a terrible age prejudice. Maybe older people just feel like they are authority figures, not peers. Or else older people just seem like creepy losers.
Actually, I would really like to hear this from the 20-year-olds’ point of view. Anybody out there who started a friendship with someone who turned out to be older? What went through your mind when you found out?
September 20, 2011 at 8:11 PM
Great website and very helpful THANK YOU! Can you post more how to change your body like abs and gain muscle?
June 20, 2011 at 11:51 AM
I can’t read your site on my iPad. Can you pleas fix it? I love your site and wish I could read it anywhere. Thanks.
June 25, 2011 at 11:29 PM
Does it feel different if you get fucked by a guy with a foreskin or without ?
Is there any difference ?
July 1, 2011 at 12:22 PM
Okay,
I’m a gay 17 year old. I have one question that is always on my mind, and that is how to seduce a straight guy. There aren’t many gay guys in my town and the ones that are fit the stereotype of being annoying, prissy, etc. (and that is the total opposite of me). I’m pretty much a normal dude that likes dudes (haha). This might be a good topic discussion, who knows if any straight guys would be reluctant to try gay acts. I’ve always said, whether straight, gay, bi, if your a guy your sex crazed haha so you can imagine my predicament. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!
July 4, 2011 at 8:53 AM
Well I’m a straight guy and yeah I am sex crazed haha and open to gay acts. Does everyone in your town know you’re gay? If so just be yourself around the guy you like and try showing him this website to clear the tension.
July 4, 2011 at 2:47 PM
Hmm I actually have the same exact question.. and I an totaly relate to you…I’m 17 nd gay.. and yeah the usuall gay guys in my town are very like stereotypically correct.. they act the same way people cattegorize them :/. Like you said.. I’m a dude who likes dude. And well how do u seduce a straight guy with out causing them to flip out.
July 9, 2011 at 7:06 PM
You don’t try to seduce a straight guy. Any ideas along those lines is fantasy—all porn is is a fantasy acted out.
There is more to being gay than sex. If you are interested in a guy you first become friends, hang out, and do stuff (not sex) together. If, in that process, sex comes into the picture and you are able to seduce him you probably will have discovered that he is either bi or a closeted gay.
July 11, 2011 at 9:07 AM
No, im not out yet. But see thats the thing. I KNOW that all guys just want some haha, I do, and do I really care from who (aside from disease) no. Thanks for the advice though. A personal question though, what would it take to convince you? You dont have to answer if you dont want haha, youve been helpful enough.
July 4, 2011 at 9:38 PM
Well since I’m curious just ask me sexual questions and hang out together and I knew you were gay I’d probably make the first move. If I wasn’t curious just show me this website haha
July 4, 2011 at 10:15 PM
okay thanks
July 5, 2011 at 7:26 AM
I’m straight and like you said, a little sex-crazed haha, but I think that when you establish a good environment with the guy you should probably do the first move since he isnt gay, therefore he isnt thinking about doing it with you… but when you make a subtle first move he would probably want to see what comes next
July 6, 2011 at 12:32 AM
I have a situation that maybe you could help me with, theres a guy, hes on vacation, hes straight and hes really good looking. he can barely keep his clothes on when around other guys, and he showed his dick to another guy ik last year. should i try and make a move on him? and if so, what?
July 6, 2011 at 3:48 PM
He is defibetly curious. I had a friend like that. Try talking to him about sexual stuff and go from there.
April 8, 2012 at 11:00 PM
Well um… this is probably a stupid questioon but -___-
Why is it so hard to find or have a guy find me. In a sense where they are willing to come up to me and ask me out.. :/
Like I’m tired of searching.. when wil they come to me. >.<
July 9, 2011 at 6:58 PM
just hang in there! i was the same way untill i just found my first boyfriend (im 19 btw) and he asked me out a month ago
so just hang in there, u will find people who like you and u also like soon! also u cld try one of those dating sites…i did but just b careful and if u go to meet someone do so in a public place!
November 15, 2011 at 8:54 AM
Hmm another question.. I’m just a boy…. I find other guys really attractive…and I’m single.. that’s not wrong right?? -__O<3
July 9, 2011 at 7:26 PM
There’s nothing wrong with being single. I was single for a long time. Meet other guys, share interests, develop friendships, and somewhere along the line there will be a mutual attraction that develops. The most important thing you can do is be yourself without force. Relationships take work once begun—not 50 / 50, but 100 / 100.
July 12, 2011 at 10:51 AM
hmmm are california boys better kissers or better in bed??
July 9, 2011 at 8:03 PM
Yes.
December 10, 2011 at 6:37 PM
You should do something on facial hair and shaving it. Im 15 and im debating if i should shave or not, my parents dont want me to but i dont know????????
July 14, 2011 at 7:32 PM
RayRay…Check out the latest post. Took you up on your idea! Thanks and hope the article helps!
July 18, 2011 at 4:13 PM
Thank you so much it really did help!
July 18, 2011 at 4:16 PM
Awesome! That’s what we’re here for!
July 18, 2011 at 4:20 PM
I have a question. I’ve talked with a couple of my friends, and I want to know what most guys use to clean up with? Socks, tissues, or something else?
July 15, 2011 at 9:13 PM
Sometimes I just take my fingers, scoop it up, lick it off, and swallow. A small towel (cum rag) is good to finish up. Tissues and paper towels work, but they sometimes come apart.
July 15, 2011 at 10:21 PM
u eat it its stinkin mahn ur own aswell thts wrong
August 20, 2011 at 9:57 PM
I just usually take some shirt laying around and clean it, or just let it dry.
July 15, 2011 at 10:56 PM
Sometimes i use a hand towel. If i am sitting at my desk to use the comp i put a towel on the chair first. Other times i just use tp, maybe a sock if one is lying around, maybe just rub it in. sometimes i shoot into my hand and then wash it off in the sink
July 16, 2011 at 12:45 AM
I’VE used condom. Sleep in it let it dry. Toilet paper. Let it dry in bed
December 2, 2011 at 8:19 AM
Let it dry up in the bed sleep in it.
December 11, 2011 at 2:04 AM
Thanks for the responses, guys. To make it fair I’ll let you know that I prefer sock “American Pie 1″ style. Just slide it on and start rubbing and then easy clean-up. And if you want to try, a soft pair of boxer briefs works really well, too.
July 18, 2011 at 2:55 PM
Hey guys…your discussion inspired a whole new blog post. Check out the article I just did, “Clean Up On Aisle 12″ on different clean up methods
July 18, 2011 at 4:12 PM
Guys actually eat their jizz? What does it taste like? Is it worth trying or not?
July 24, 2011 at 10:07 AM
Pretty good, actually. Jizz doesn’t always taste the same because of changes in diet. I’ve not had a problem with it.
July 24, 2011 at 3:41 PM
It seems like it would be like eating snot.
July 24, 2011 at 4:13 PM
but it tastes sssssssooooooooo bad
August 20, 2011 at 10:00 PM
I always told a friend of mine that cum tastes much better than Ranch Dressing (which I can’t stand, but he loves)—actually there are a number of foods that taste awful and make me gag. Cum has never had that effect on me.
August 20, 2011 at 10:48 PM
I dont really like it
July 24, 2011 at 4:23 PM
some people say that it tastes different for each guy depending on their diets… mine is salty haha
July 24, 2011 at 5:04 PM
hey mine too haha
July 24, 2011 at 5:11 PM
it does taste different…i dont like mine much but i like my bf’s lol
November 15, 2011 at 8:58 AM
I just found this site and it great I wish it was around when I was younger. I just tasted my cum the other day after read things on this site. It was not bad I will do it again. I think I am gone to go jack off the now thinking about has got me hard and my girl is not here to have sex with.
December 2, 2011 at 8:10 AM
Is there anyway to create a way for all of us to interact? Forums of some sort?
I know you have a Facebook fan page, but I don’t think my job would like me publically posting there. Maybe something a bit more private?
July 26, 2011 at 9:46 PM
The other day my friend showed me a video that discussed mutual masturbation, but nothing happened. And I was wondering should I bring it back up or leave it alone?
July 31, 2011 at 10:06 AM
Since he brought it up the first time, seems like no problem bringing it up again. Next time you are together, ask him for the link again, saying you lost it or something. Then bring up the page again and maybe you can ask him if he ever tried it like that, and does he want to.
July 31, 2011 at 12:39 PM
Good point, Craig!
July 31, 2011 at 1:06 PM
When the subject of masturbation comes up again ask him what he thought of the the video about mutual masturbation. I’m guessing that if he brought the video over to share that the two of you have had discussion about masturbation.
Of course you can just bring it or let it pass, but it seems that showing you the video was suggesting a possible development.
July 31, 2011 at 1:04 PM
It was weird though cause he’s NEVER did anything like that before. What are some good ways to bring it up?
July 31, 2011 at 4:31 PM
One possibility is to ask him how he felt about the video as you were watching it. Do that in the context of talking generally about masturbation—
July 31, 2011 at 7:26 PM
Or ask him if he’s ever done that with anyone.
July 31, 2011 at 7:30 PM
Is it me, or are there more gay guys on this site than mostly straight? (don’t take it the wrong way)
August 2, 2011 at 11:27 AM
No I’m gay And there are Alot of other gay guys to
August 30, 2011 at 8:04 AM
So what about being physically attracted to your best friends. How do you bring about the topics?
August 4, 2011 at 11:16 AM
I agree with Victor. I know it is suppose to be directed to men of any orientation, but it seems a little slanted. The pics are definitely of more interest to the male population. I feel sort of out numbered as a straight guy on here.
August 4, 2011 at 1:10 PM
True
August 4, 2011 at 11:06 PM
Don’t view it that way. Most of us are straight just looking to satisfy bi curiosity and not looking to become gay.
August 29, 2011 at 9:29 AM
there are more gays on here prob cuz we r more attracted to talking about/learning about dicks and stuff i guess lol also alot of straight guys wldnt post prob cuz they might feel weird
November 15, 2011 at 9:00 AM
Would like to know more about the owner of the website? a pic even? a more efficient way of talking to each other.
August 4, 2011 at 4:49 PM
Hey, pretty cool blog you guys have got here. Just a few things i’m not too fond about. I don’t really like how you point out homosexuality as “less than straight” as if homosexuality is some how, on the scale of sexuality less than being straight…. Also and I’ll be honest I didn’t read many of your posts just because there was just too much unfair information in the very first one. When you elaborated on a presumable straight male having homosexual tendencies, you attempted to make it seem as if a sexuality must be determined, and that is not the case at all. There is nothing at all wrong with not being gay or straight, in fact I feel as if “sexuality” is just another way for society to put us in groups, which is not exactly beneficial for the people that being put in these group. Just thought I’d say that, cheers.
August 15, 2011 at 5:55 PM
is there any post about duration of sex? like, how long is it really? Because, some people exaggerate or say it was all night but in reality…? if there isn’t a poll about this already, one should be made… i wanna know, ya know.
August 17, 2011 at 2:18 AM
The duration of sex depends on the people involved and how much time you have.
With lots of playing around (foreplay) it can last as long as you can stand it. Working up to a peak, then coming down, putting off the finale by changing positions or going oral, etc. will ultimately allow for a mind-blowing orgasm for both of you. Finally you fall asleep in each others’ arms—later waking up to have an encore or two.
I had a lover once who was able to put me in just about any position imaginable. We went at it for 4 hours before falling into blissful sleep with our arms and legs wrapped around each other.
However, most of the time it lasts about 30 minutes.
BTW: porn is often made up of scenes spliced together to make it appear that the sex goes on and on and on. It’s not filmed in real time.
August 17, 2011 at 10:47 AM
i find if you mastubate before you have sex with a girl i get a wonderfull orgasum
September 4, 2011 at 4:20 PM
Yea but having sex with her and then doing it again and again for as maytimes you can is better.
December 2, 2011 at 2:00 AM
Sex duration is increased when alcohol is brought into the equation, when sober I wouldnt last very long lol
another question experimenting with other boys when you are younger is that natural because Iam straight but have experimented
August 20, 2011 at 9:52 PM
You should don’t drink till you are of legal age it not good for you. But what am I to say I was did when I younger and you are right but sometimes you get dumb and have sexual intercourse and don’t use any protection no condom she not on the pill, you don’t pull out. Now you got a pregnancy scare. I know this happened to me a lot when I was younger. I was not very smart all of the time. I got luck no pregnancy that I don’t know of. I do have kids but they where planned.
December 2, 2011 at 4:32 AM
thanks george and div
August 21, 2011 at 12:51 AM
here hw do u join this or are you always a guest
August 21, 2011 at 11:20 AM
and I presume this blog is not Brittish as it says the time is 11.20am when its 17.24
August 21, 2011 at 11:24 AM
No it’s coming to you from the United States, CST (Central Standard Time)
August 21, 2011 at 2:03 PM
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August 21, 2011 at 5:48 PM
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August 21, 2011 at 7:32 PM
awryte
August 21, 2011 at 7:42 PM
Hello!
I am a Behavioral Psycologist. I came across this site (Via Google) while trying to find useful sexual information for my young male clients, their friends and family trying to deal the idea that young men are sexual. This is probably one of, if not the best site I have found to date. Every young man should see this site and share their experiences with others. Kudos to the developer and the members for ‘making it real’. To the young guys at the site TELL YOUR FRIENDS!
Enjoy your sexual side, it’s part of who we are…
August 24, 2011 at 12:33 PM
Is it just me, but I feel like telling any male friend (who’s straight) of this sight or anything of that nature, would simply have negative consequences. Which will probably be irreversible too.
August 24, 2011 at 9:24 PM
So you’re saying that you feel that if you tell another guy about this site, they may feel like you’re trying to drop a hint or something to them?
To be honest, you don’t need to be OTT about the site. Just say something like “hey, I found this site. It’s kinda cool. Where you go to talk about things you wouldn’t necessarily in the real world” and leave it at that. Where as if you say it’s all about touching guys, which is not, you would give the impression that this is a gay blog. Which would scare people away. As SGS says, this is a guys blog for guys.
Also, if it did end up that you were made out to be gay, just tell whoever that you’re not. It’s simple as that, really.
August 26, 2011 at 4:44 PM
Your right. But still gotta be cautious. But your right.
August 26, 2011 at 6:41 PM
I have a friend that comes to visit me from his city . Hes cute. He always asks me to stay up with him and see who falls asleep first. Hes always talking about girls , and one time we ended up watching porn together. Hes always waking me up for no reason just to talk and stuff all night. He always wants to playfight cus i think he wants to secretly hug me , and i agree cus i would do anything to grab his ass. I do it so he dosnt notice. If i just play with him and talk trash to him he gets upset and says i always say things that hurt him. He always texts me and hits me up on facebook. Do you guys think he’s gay?
August 27, 2011 at 9:09 PM
its a possibility but ive known alot of completely straight guys (im gay) who just like to do that stuff with other guys and some r more open to doing those things with gays cuz they feel they dont have to worry about being judged…if u havent come out to him do so and see how he reacts if u have then idk talk about being horny or something and u rlly wanna watch porn and pretend to “find” one that has mutual masturbation or something lol or u cld just out right ask tho in the right context…like asking about what hes done with girls to c how comfortable he seems…gd luck!
November 15, 2011 at 9:09 AM
YOU talk about masturbation and this site is filled with young guys have you talked about anal masturbation. Anal masturbation is not something that is commonly discussed but believe me, it can be very pleasurable for both men and women of any sexual orientation. The reason for this is that the anus contains lots of nerve endings that are very sensitive.
For men, anal masturbation is exceptionally pleasurable because it stimulates the prostate gland which is also known as the male G-spot. I think some people whould like to learn ????
just say’n
August 27, 2011 at 9:50 PM
LIKE THE SITE. DO MORE ON JERK OFF IN CAR, ETC.
August 28, 2011 at 10:21 AM
So if I’m uncircumcised and my head is really sensitive, how can I make it less sensitive?
August 28, 2011 at 5:10 PM
No. I tend to think that most of us here are hetro but would like to be able to suck a guy at will – not to be confused with living with and loving a guy, just having the experience of a warm load in the mouth on occassion. That definitely is not being gay – in myhumble opinion.
August 30, 2011 at 8:46 AM
I think you are right on. I think there should be a discreet way to hook up for a suck every now and then without being critized for wanting to do something that might be purely natural. No love, no connection, no kissing, etc. just a good mouthful of warm cum.
September 3, 2011 at 9:00 AM
finally some one who gets it i mean i just want to suck cock and take it up the ass but i have no desire at all to actually have a relationship with a guy i dont even want to kiss a guy i just have some weird kinky being semi dominated thing
September 27, 2011 at 6:13 PM
use a gay hookup site if u want that, u can select if u just want casual sex…just be careful
November 15, 2011 at 9:11 AM
just accept that there are a lot of gay guys in the world and on this site and that is prefectly normal! it’s not a big deal you know? just deal with it!
September 9, 2011 at 11:50 PM
Ok so I have a friend who lives in a different state and I really want. To go out with him . we are both gay and I reallly like him but he doesn’t have feelings for me… What can I do to make him like me?????????????????plz help thanks
August 30, 2011 at 10:19 AM
u cant make a guy like u…im srry but u cant. it rlly sux liking a guy who doesnt feel the same, trust me i no…
November 15, 2011 at 9:12 AM
i just wondered when did you first get chest hair i was 15 years old
September 2, 2011 at 5:46 AM
you gave a great point but as you get older you find the girls and men do not like haveing oral sex with all that heir and buy triming a little it helps with oder and note to say but you do look well groomed and every one likes to see that on there man some one who cares aboute the way they come off to other people you can be happy to have all that but a big group of men and girls like a little trim job if i may say fiend what workes for you body and style a be happy with that no one is telling you you have to be all shavin also it grouws back if you do not like it
September 3, 2011 at 8:01 AM
idont shave my chest hair but i do trim my pubes and i dont shave my happy trail me and my girlfriend has sex last night and she did not complain
September 4, 2011 at 1:14 AM
Can we get a post about butt exercises?
September 5, 2011 at 5:49 PM
Butt exercises: probably two of the best are squats and bridges. Both can be done using body weight. Half squats work and don’t put as much strain on the knees, plus you can hold the position for a few seconds. Both also work the core.
September 5, 2011 at 7:32 PM
I wonder how many guys try to hide their morning boner when from their roommates or from guys when they are visiting someplace for a weekend or camping or whatever. We all get morning wood, but I keep the covers on me until my wood dies down before getting out of bed. Some guys don’t care who sees their wood. Wonder what is most common.
September 6, 2011 at 6:51 AM
Lol i get wood but im married so get right up show my glory
September 28, 2011 at 8:41 AM
I’m nineteen and have three younger brothers; seventeen, fifteen and fourteen. We all shared a huge bedroom and had a bathroom to ourselves. Morning wood wasn’t a big deal for us. We have all messed around with each other since I was twelve and hit puberty and discovered what boys can do with each other with a cousin. The other three caught us at it and demanded “turns” so it went on from there.
I was on the wrestling team at school, and in wrestling boners are very common. Everyone gets them at one time or another, and we just laughed it off and maybe humped each other “in fun.” Or grabbed a handful… just horsing around. I noticed early on that other guys get excited seeing guys with hard-ons. They look, then look away, then look again for longer, and end up pulling at their own crotches or cocks. Face it, boners are cool and guys like having boners and seeing other dudes boned up.
Because I was so used to being naked around other boys from being with my brothers and in the school locker room, when I got to college last year I just didn’t think about it. At first my roommate was embarrassed about my being naked all the time, and seeing morning (and afternoon, and evening!) wood. One night I heard the lower bunk squeaking and this heavy breathing, and I looked over and asked if I could join him. I thought he’d die, but he agreed, and from then on we’ve been messing around. Looking at straight porn is a great way to get dudes aroused.
I learned that if YOU don’t act embarrassed then they think maybe it’s okay for THEM not to be embarrassed. Some dudes are prudes and really don’t like looking at another guy’s junk, and especially if the junk is pumped up, but most dudes check out all the details!
October 9, 2011 at 6:27 PM
I never cared I get up let everyone see it.
December 11, 2011 at 2:23 AM
I would like to see a post about anal play between guys and girls. Openness to it, what guys would like to happen..etc. Even though I’m a girl, this site has been pretty useful to me and I really like your posts. Lately, I’ve really been wanting to lick my bf’s ass and play with it…Blowing him while a couple of my fingers are inside him would get me sooo wet! I’ve read everywhere that guys fantasize about this a lot but never tell anyone or they wish their gf was down for it….still I don’t really know how to bring it up…my bf is really open and mature about anything sexual but guys get so…weird about their asses like its a gay thing so I really have no idea how he’d react. I know he’s had his ass licked a few times before (he told me) and he said its “nice under the right circumstances” but what in the hell does that mean?
September 15, 2011 at 1:16 AM
Why don’t you ask him what the “right circumstances” are? It would possibly open a dialogue between the two of you to further explore both of your likes, dislikes, kinks, deal breakers etc…
September 22, 2011 at 8:45 PM
Just found this site and I have a answer for you a girlfriend I was dating wanted to try that to. I let her it was great and then we had the best sex we ever had.
December 2, 2011 at 2:28 AM
Dude great site.I’m STR8 .never homophobic.done alot of crazy shit.love the car jerk,jerkoff with a buddy shit ,lol.keep up the good work
as a human we r as curious ass hell,it wont be fair to us not to explore or to imagine Sexuality is BLISS!
September 28, 2011 at 8:34 AM
Well said buddy
April 16, 2012 at 11:48 PM
Love the comment you R sooo Right
September 30, 2011 at 12:11 PM
Awesome site, Been looking for a place where this stuff is what it is. And nothing more. Keep it up! Peace
September 30, 2011 at 10:58 PM
Guys I’m straight, I was just wondering if it is normal to consider a guy to be good looking or attractive or simply stay looking at him!
October 7, 2011 at 4:53 PM
Personally I don’t think there’s anything weird about considering another guy “good looking or attractive” of even staring/looking at a guy. Just because you’re a straight guy doesn’t mean that you are immune to beauty, in whatever form it might take. If that form is a guy’s form, I don’t think that makes you “gay”. The male form can be a beautiful thing. Appreciating it when you see it just makes you appreciative of things that are good looking. Hey, just because you’re a guy are you supposed to edit which things you think are “attractive” just because of how society might judge your perception? I also think it’s normal and healthy for one guy to look at another and find features or aspects that they find admirable or may want to emulate. Some of the coolest straight guys I know are ones that get beyond this and can say “dang, that dude is good looking!” Sure, considering other guys attractive could be an indication of a developing attraction, but more likely it’s an indication that you know “good looking” when you see it. For more on this subject, check out this past article we did http://secretguystuff.wordpress.com/2011/05/27/straight-guygay-thoughts-whats-up-with-that/
October 7, 2011 at 6:14 PM
i have a question. is it normal for skinny guys to have big thick dicks?
the blogger http://deerie.co.uk/ has a 8 inch dick but hes skinny so it doesnt make sense.
October 9, 2011 at 2:45 PM
When it comes to ween size and other body attributes, there really is no normal/not normal. There really is no established correlation between body size and/or body parts and boner dimensions. Big, tall guys can be small, short little guys can be big, skinny guys can have skinny wieners…or fat…..long or short….just like fat guys, tall guys, or average guys. Furthermore things like hand size, noses, ears, finger span, shoe size, etc. etc. are not reliable indicators of penis size.
October 10, 2011 at 7:52 PM
Just thought I would add to this. I am recently gay come out and only because i hooked up with a gay guy and we wound up both really liking each other. I really love this site, so informative and just over all just great. Not really only one thing in general that i like but it is great. I love all the polls and this post section. I love how open everyone is on here as well.
October 15, 2011 at 6:05 PM
Your polls consistently start with asking about one’s age. Your age range is 15 to 21, no doubt what you originally thought would be your target audience. However, if you look at some of your results, it is clear that about 1/3 of your respondents fall in the ‘other’ category. I recently discovered this blog through a link from another site as I was exploring information on questioning one’s sexuality. I happen to be a 66 year old grandfather and find much of what I have found on Secret Guy Stuff to be of interest to me. For more years than I want to confess to, I have had questions that are being answered by looking at the results of polls in your archives. May I suggest that you make a change in your age poll by grouping ages, i.e. 15 -17, 18-20, 21-23 . . . 30-40, 40-50, Older than 50. At minimum this will give you a better understanding of the scope of your readership.
Thanks for your blog, bigranddad
October 18, 2011 at 8:26 PM
That’s a good suggestion. I think it’s makes the polls more relevant when age is indicated. Unfortunately the polls that work best with the wordpress format are somewhat limited in scope. I used to have the answers skewed towards older but got several requests from younger guys to include their age…now I’m getting more requests like this to include older. I wish it was possible for everyone just to indicate their own age and for the polls to display the results. But your idea of age ranges is an interesting compromise. I think I’ll play around with a few solutions to see how to work this out. Ultimately I want to have the most meaningful blog/polls for all ages. We shall work on it!!
November 2, 2011 at 3:48 PM
You R Soooo Right thank you for saying what I have thought for a time See ya later
October 24, 2011 at 3:03 PM
Man I really wish that this iste was around when I was growing up. I am 38 and most of the topics covered in this site are things I had questions and thoughts on growing up. Youger guys should feel really lucky that there are resources like this available and kudos to the website for keeping up with this. Everything on here is pretty normal stuff that most guys think about but don’t feel comfortable talking about-or are afraid to talk about it. Great site! Denver Colorado Guy
October 26, 2011 at 5:01 PM
I Agree this is a great site. I to wish this was around when I was younger.
December 11, 2011 at 2:36 AM
Has there been a poll yet about boxers Vs. briefs? I’m interested to see some results but couldn’t find anything on the sight.
October 28, 2011 at 3:11 PM
There have been a couple posts/polls about that topic actually. Here’s the link to one of them. Just do a search for “boxers” using the search tool in the righthand column to find more. http://secretguystuff.wordpress.com/2011/06/25/boxers-briefs-or-bare-what-are-your-day-and-night-time-choices/
November 1, 2011 at 12:35 PM
Uhm, How normal I am, if I had 18 crushes and two out of 18 are guys, ???, the other 16 are girls..
November 1, 2011 at 9:03 AM
Sounds pretty normal to me man….how old are you btw?
November 1, 2011 at 12:31 PM
seems normal to me to man, lots of guys have man crushes
November 1, 2011 at 4:21 PM
I’m 17…
November 2, 2011 at 9:02 AM
Yeah man, in my opinion, having a couple of crushes on guys in the mix of things seems pretty normal. I think it happens with a lot of guys, maybe just not always admitted to.
November 2, 2011 at 3:42 PM
haha im gay and have had 1 or 2 crushes on straight girls, nothin weird about it
November 15, 2011 at 9:18 AM
Maybe It’ll be cool , If there would be a live chat…
November 2, 2011 at 9:27 AM
Actually several people have suggested that. It’s something I’m def looking into…
November 2, 2011 at 3:43 PM
What do you all think about comparing package sizes and “looks” with a younger cousin of yours? I’m 19, he’s 13. I’m not some creepy weirdo, but I was once in a situation where I thought he was going to ask. If he did ask at one time, I wouldn’t know what to do, should I ignore it and switch the topic? Or should I just go along and let him explore his curiosity?
He doesn’t like talking about that kind of stuff to his older brother, so the last time I saw him, we just spent like 2 hours talking about puberty and stuff, and I explained some aspects and the phases, things like that.
Basically, if you were 13 and curious about the body, would you want to compare to an older cousin?
November 7, 2011 at 4:05 PM
its fine to let him c, guys do it all the time. just as long as u dont take advantage (and it doesnt sound like u wld) i dont c a prob with it
November 15, 2011 at 9:20 AM
If I were in that situation, uhm, i’m a shy type guy, so i’d probably not asked somebody else about it, unless they are the one to open up first..
November 9, 2011 at 8:38 AM
Since puberty began for me (age 10) I’ve been way intrigued and fascinated by male body hair. So f’d up that I’m living in an age when style requires to manscape or, worse yet, shave smooth, look like women or like I did at nine. Sure would like to see more guys let it grow natural, especially those who are hairy to begin with! And sure I’m bi, but this is more of a “celebrate our differences” issue, men should look like men, let women can do what fashion demands.
November 16, 2011 at 7:17 AM
As far as butt sex goes, anybody ever get their gf to massage their prostate? Incredible!!!, makes me squirt against the wall over my shoulder. When I get buddies to do me and me them we usually get on our knees. Something about looking at each other’s face while stroking their anus is kind of difficult, too intimate for straight or bi men. But the result’s the same!
November 16, 2011 at 7:20 AM
is there a blog on deoderant? also, I think there should be a group of people, and their emails should be put on here, so in case if any guy has a question about “stuff”, they can email that person. Please do that! I really need to ask about some “stuff”…
November 19, 2011 at 6:41 AM
and also is there a blog on man crushes or sometihng? is guys having man crushes normal? cuz I have a few man crushes.
November 19, 2011 at 6:42 AM
What are the differences between how a circumcised guy and an uncircumcised guy masturbates?
November 27, 2011 at 1:27 AM
How about other how many girls/boys that they had sexually intercourse in the same day? What about those who did not or do not use a condom during sexually intercourse was other birth control used. What was it pull out the pill ect. How about how many used no birth control at all?
December 2, 2011 at 12:26 AM
I’m easily bothered by the reluctance of intimacy between males that certain men have. Its just crazy to deny the touch, smell, caress, & sensual feelings that would be enjoyed if simply they were to let go of the fear.Â
Hate being a witness to guys behaving sexually towards each other then few secs later shaking it off as a joke. Be warned, do that in front of me again & you will be made to drop down to your knees xD.Â
All guys, pardon, a big chunked percentage of guys want to be with another guy & that needs to be acknowledged with joy. How grateful it is that this blog is a beacon, & hopefully a source that will help ease out of the dangerous mindsets of now.Â
It’s about damn time these discussions took place because I’ve tried too hard into figuring out whether any other guys felt this way. I do now.Â
What would make this blog better is if it had a forum.
December 2, 2011 at 12:46 AM
How about how a question on how many guys had sexualintercourses with a girlfriend in did not use any birth control what did they did after? Pregnancy abortion now a father or mornin after? got lucky not pregnant? This happen to me before. And why they did not use anything. Didn’t have a condom? Was going to pull out don’t get like condoms like the real fill better. It just got out of hand.(that was 1of my). Did not care? How they felt when they where waiting to find out if she was pregnant or not pregnant? Did they tell anyone.
December 2, 2011 at 3:02 AM
How about how many different girls or boy that they got a bj from and what they felt did with the cum.
Any guys that gave a blow job to another guy? What they did with the cum. Swallow it? Share it(both eat it)? Rub it in skin? Paper towels?
December 2, 2011 at 3:12 AM
One of my questionon got messed upI trying to type on cell phone. Sorry. I like to see a poll on how many guy had sexual intercourseit with different partners at different times. The same day. I did that one time. My girlfriend had friend stay the night she the friend sleep on the couch. We had been drinking that night. When my girlfriend went to bed I had sexual intercourse with her friend. Then I went to bed and had sexual intercourse with my girlfriend. I did not use a condom or any birth control on either time. Dumb move but it worked out fine but it was great. Like to to do that again. I did see her friend stay for in while just for sex my girlfriend dose not know. Her friend got on the pill also so after that I never used a condom when we had sex that is way I asked the other question would like to know if others had things like this. It was fun but dumb she could. still get pregnantor on the pill. Was not worried about diseases she was a virgin when we where together. As for birth control on with my girlfriend at at the time for I did usually pulled but I did not that night and I was scared that they both could be pregnant. Luckily they were not.
December 2, 2011 at 4:03 AM
hey… I was wondering if somebody could just email me because I have some questions about stuff… ashariff59@yahoo.com
December 11, 2011 at 5:17 PM
Not to be pushy or anything but, could you update posts more recent? Like 3-5 days range? That would make me come back more often and have people stay rather than leaving the blog. No offence but it gets boring reading things over and over.
Thanks for understanding,
anonamous
December 13, 2011 at 10:31 PM
yes….you are absolutely right. i really should be posting more. been kinda busy lately and have fallen behind. sorry bout that! if you ever have any ideas for posts, polls, got a questions, etc. feel free to send it over. reader ideas always help! once again, sorry and thanks for being such a loyal reader!
December 14, 2011 at 6:23 PM
I am having an extremly hard time coming to the realization that I need to tell my parents I’m gay… Do you think it’s possible you can ask a question or have people leave replys with the easiest way to tell them?
thanks sooo much! 
December 15, 2011 at 8:53 PM
Any method you will try will not be an easy one, let me tell you that. Telling a family member about a part of yourself that you’ve kept secret from is not a walk in a park. With that being said, it isn’t wise to assume your parents will be very benevolent about your news, but if they are, sweet! That’s great. But if they aren’t, just know that you should keep strong with your head held up high.
Perhaps you can get your parents into a quiet place, like a room or something. Explain to them how you feel, and tell them. If they aren’t in agreement with any of it, remind them that you are still the same son 10 minutes ago, the same son they love. It is going to be hard, but if you must push through it and be tough.
Above all, your safety is important. If you think your parents might injure or harm you or throw you out the house, I wouldn’t advise to come out just yet. See if you can get an opinion from them about the subject of gays.
From here, all I can say is to be strong and have courage. You will know when to come out; you’ll feel it. Until then, good luck, and I hope for you the best.
December 25, 2011 at 8:39 PM
So I shaved my pubes last night, and now it’s really scratchy and uncomfortable. And to be honest, kinda painful. Any ideas on how long it will last, or maybe ideas to make it not hurt?
December 19, 2011 at 3:09 PM
hey there.. i’m a confused guy. i don’t know what i really am coz i like girls but i also like boys(more than girls). i’m actually happier with boys but because of our culture, it made me wonder if i should go with what makes me happy(boys) or what is right(girls) . :/
December 25, 2011 at 4:53 AM
I believe that the right thing to do is to follow what makes you happy. It is okay to not know what you like, who says you have to? Not every “right” thing is the good thing. You should follow however you feel. I say go for it. If you like boys more than girls, go ahead! If you like girls more than boys, that’s perfectly fine too! Your happiness is what should matter, not society’s.
December 25, 2011 at 8:30 PM
I am 16year straight guy and i sow a picture where someone blowjobs his own dick. Did anyone did it? How is to swalow?
P.s. I want to experience only once to blowjob someones dick?
Am I gay because of that?
December 26, 2011 at 6:04 AM
please answer my quation
December 26, 2011 at 3:26 PM
Yes, it is possible for some guys to suck their own. Younger guys tend to be more successful as they are typically skinnier and more limber than older guys. All in all it’s a rare talent to actually do more than just touch the tongue. I think only about 1% of the male population can pull it off. In my opinion you’re desire to experience isn’t necessarily “gay”, more just a natural curiosity.
December 26, 2011 at 4:32 PM
Someone,
It does not make you gay to want to experience giving a guy a blowjob. It sounds more like you want to satisfy your curiosity.
I have formed a relationship with another guy–we are in love with one another–we are more than simply friends–we express our love in many ways that also includes sex. We do not have or want that kind of relationship with a girl–we are gay.
December 26, 2011 at 10:32 PM
thanks aaron! that actually makes a lo of sense. i’m just too caught up with society sometimes that i forget about myself and my happiness.
December 26, 2011 at 7:12 AM
Hey guys im str8 but i am very curious! I am getting impatient with the whole entire waiting thing i really want to find a buddy to jerk off with or maybe give and get a blow job. What should i do? Should i look on the internet or what???
December 28, 2011 at 1:49 PM
first if you have a gay friend do it with him or go to gay bar
December 30, 2011 at 4:03 PM
I think That Can Sound Good But Be Aware some people R not there to just hang out
just that that need to be said but it never can know if you do not get out there? Have A good time and if you do not just give it a day or two it could be beater?
January 3, 2012 at 9:50 PM
same here lol
January 2, 2012 at 6:25 PM
i was wandering if you ever thought about letting another guy help you with this sight. if so i would relly be interested. i have some really cool ideas on how to improve this website and make it more popular.
January 1, 2012 at 2:34 PM
i sow this morning in web that my dad watched porn. i couldnt beliave. i mastrube and the 95% of man. but it is my dad. do i need to talk to him? what to say? i am confusted:(:(:(
January 2, 2012 at 4:46 PM
Every guy does it. There is nothing to say to him. Do yourself a favor and try to forget. I know its a bad picture to have in your head.
I think that the person that made this site should put up a couple pictures of himself and a small bio about himself. Like answering a couple of the things about yourself from the surveys.
January 2, 2012 at 7:54 PM
I want to ask my opder brother if he could show me his penis, i want to compare because none of my friends would do it. He is 22 and im 15 if that helps. I just dont know how to go about it and when? I dunno how to ask.
January 4, 2012 at 3:39 PM
try to se is he comunicative about that and tell him about him. if he says no you do to see it
January 7, 2012 at 3:55 PM
I was wondering if there could be more topics about intact guys… there are a lot more aout there than people think…
January 9, 2012 at 3:23 PM
By intact, do you mean uncircumcised? Any particular topics that you had in mind?
January 9, 2012 at 3:27 PM
Could post some photos and do surveys about the inside stuff of the fallowing male model:
Sebastian Sauve
Simon Nessman
Evandro Soldati
Max Motta
Raphael Lacchine
Alex Schultz
Arthur Sales
Malon Teixeira
Mário Lonckarski
January 13, 2012 at 1:08 AM
I just want to know where do you get the pics you are using?? Especially those asian-looking guys.
January 22, 2012 at 10:21 PM
Hey I have a question. I’m 18 and a vrgn I masterbate a lot! But lately I been breaking out a lot…
Does jacking off mae you break out (if yes) is there anyway to prevent the breakouts?
And another thing what’s the best way to jack off?:)
January 25, 2012 at 2:37 AM
There’s no relationship that I know of between jacking off and breaking out. Stress and anxiety can lead to breaking out, so possibly if you’re stressed over how much you’re masturbating, maybe maybe it might cause some breakouts, but that’s all doubtful. If anything, jacking off relieves stress so it might actually help.
January 25, 2012 at 1:46 PM
I’m 18 and masturbate a lot too, but I rarely break out. I just clean my face everyday with regular bar soap when I’m in the shower. Once a week I clean my face with some over the counter acne stuff. (I use the Neutrogena acne wash, the one with microbeads.) Like two or three times a month I clean my face with an easy to make exfoliant. Take the juice of 1 lime and add sugar to it. Add enough so that it has the consistency of wet sand. I rub my face with the lime/sugar mixture hard enough to clean off dirt and dead skin. I leave it on there for 5 minutes (and I try no to eat what’s on my face). I wash it off with warm water and pat my face dry. Of course, different people have different levels of acne. Different factors come in to play like genetics, stress, and what you put on your face.
February 3, 2012 at 2:25 AM
Well, let me first say that I came across this website like an hour ago and I’ve been sitting here looking around haah it’s great. And, since we’re all about honesty, I must say I’ve been kind of turned on. but my question is: Sometimes when I get a boner there’s a small pea sized bumped about 1/4 of an inch down my shaft, from the head, away from my body. Anyone have this problem?/ know what it is? I’ve read online it might be something with the lymph nodes? not sure. Help me out guys! and great website secretguystuff!
February 14, 2012 at 9:10 PM
Nice website! Just found it on google.. so informative..
I really don’t want to talk about it but after seeing the results of some polls, I must confess that I had sex with another man. I have done it several times and my reason: just for fun and pleasure. I was thinking for a couple of days if I am gay but after reading your posts, I realized that I am really not. I am just 17 and would just like to explore. Thanks dude for your posts!
Also, kindly posts more informative discussions such as itchy pubic hairs, the proper way of courting a girl… those sort of things.
February 18, 2012 at 12:03 PM
I would REALLY love advice on how to bring up that “lets experiment” talk. Im very picky about the people I date so tou can imagine how I feel about hook ups and one-night-stands. I want to ask a friend of mine but I dont want to ruin the friendship or be shuned by him and everyone else who may found out that i asked.
February 23, 2012 at 12:23 AM
Hey just wanted to say I love this blog and it’s really helped me a lot!
I just want to know if things like butthole stimulation or watching gay porn makes you truly “gay” or is it common in straight guys??
February 25, 2012 at 10:17 AM
In my opinion, just because you enjoy stimulation in a particular area it doesn’t mean you are gay. Lots of people find that area pleasurable, no matter what sexuality you are. It’s a common misconception that if it’s butt-related it must be gay. That simply isn’t true. Watching gay porn doesn’t necessarily mean you are gay either. Once again, a person may have a broad range of things they like to view, but it doesn’t dictate what sexuality you are. Of course liking gay porn could be an indicator, but your sexuality is a combination of a lot of factors.
February 25, 2012 at 11:39 AM
I happen to think your right …. my self I like and have read from other guys that prostrate stimulation is one of the most ….well I think it is great but can be done with a female partner and a dry orgasm as thy call it is something to just do you home work so your safe and not harming your rectum think safety and lots of lubrication….
February 25, 2012 at 2:19 PM
New to this site just found out about it everything looks pretty great so far looking forward to the site comments to help
February 27, 2012 at 12:28 AM
To all the straight dudes out there:
What is your reason/mindset for watching gay porn?
For me, I think it’s the only thing that works. Watching straight porn, although interesting, doesn’t get me as flexed as the dude-on-dude kind.
Also, when I’m watching guy-on-guy, I think I can connect with them, because they’re guys. But when I’m watching straight, or girl-on-girl, there’s this lack of satisfaction. I don’t know how women feel in their parts, so I don’t know if I were to fantasize about doing it to them I would be doing something right or wrong. There’s also that thing about me that when I watch these videos, I feel like I’m disrespecting women as a whole. I guess it’s just the way I was raised.
Having said that, though, when it comes to relationships, I’m pretty straight, if not bi. It’s just that the sexual part of my life is dominated by male energy.
So guys, what is your reason/mindset for watching dude-on-dude porn?
February 27, 2012 at 6:44 AM
Well im straight i dont think watching girl on girl is disrespecting women its a choice they make LOL but as a straight guy my reasons for watching the gay stuff is exactly the same as yours i feel like i can relate more, love watching the girl on girl stuff gives me a different sense of pleasure and the guy on guy stuff gives me a different although i have only had sex with girls, i would LOVE to know what its like, just wondering if u have ever experience it?
April 17, 2012 at 12:06 AM
I’m pretty much the same way. I’ve had plenty of straight relationships but I did have a thing for a short while with a male friend of mine experimenting. I was razed the same way. I do call myself straight but I guess I would could be considered bi.
February 27, 2012 at 10:35 PM
Thats exactly how I am!
February 28, 2012 at 7:41 AM
My question is ‘Other than either you or he flat-out asking the other, how do you know if a close guy friend might be interested in experimenting with you?’ (i.e.: how does he react to body contact, what is “the guy rule” to arms touching on an armrest, how does he treat you differently from other guys, etc.) Some polls that you may want to take: a) Age?, b) If you have experimented with a close guy friend, what signs did you notice beforehand?, c) If there is a close guy friend that you want to experiment with, are there any signs that you give him, even if subtle?
I feel it’s a viable question, so beforehand, I thank you for your time spent answering it.
PS: I personally am eighteen, so I would appreciate if it were answered from that perspective – but other perspectives as well! If you need anything specified about my question, just send me an email. Thanks!
March 1, 2012 at 11:47 AM
Can you make a post, if you haven’t already, on prostate stimulation and how to find it/ where it is? i’ve read other posts on if you would try it or not and i was wondering if you would make for people who wanted to.
March 3, 2012 at 7:37 PM
How about a survey about first time having sex? How old.
March 5, 2012 at 4:43 AM
I think you should do one that bases what sexually excites you based on sexual orientation.
March 14, 2012 at 9:44 AM
hi, i really want to try jacking off with a buddy but i have no idea how to bring it up, i dont want to put it out there incase they tell other people, i need some sort of line i could say to them so i could see how they respond and then act on their response e.g if they laugh i could just say “joking XD”. any ideas?
March 15, 2012 at 12:59 PM
Here’s an article that we published a bit ago that might be of some help. Check it out. http://secretguystuff.wordpress.com/2011/04/01/breaking-the-barrier-to-beating-off-with-a-buddy/
March 18, 2012 at 1:03 PM
What’s the best way to masterbate alone in the shower I’ve pretty much. Tryed it all
N HOW MUCH JACKING OFF IS TOO MUCH JACKING OFF?I’m a virgin till marriage. So I have to stay in shape;) I appreciate the help fellas!
March 19, 2012 at 11:06 PM
I just found this site and it is really good. I have a question that might be of interest hopefully. I am a teen that is deaf and also leaning towards the gayer side of life. I know several deaf boys that are just like me and one told me there is a larger percentage of gays in the deaf world than there are in the hearing world. Does anyone know about that? I hope to hear (lol deaf humor) from someone about this or anything else for that matter. I am real lonely, lol.
March 21, 2012 at 1:42 PM
I doubt that there is a larger percentage of gays in the deaf world than in the hearing world. I won’t speculate on that.
In the gayborhood here in Dallas, TX , I do see groups of gays speaking in sign language in the restaurants, shops, and bars. I have a friend who plays in the community (gay) band that I’m in who does sign language at the Cathedral of Hope where many gays in the community attend services.
I don’t know where you live, or how old you are, but here in Dallas we have a group for gay youth called Youth First. They have a director, a meeting place, and activities for GLBT youth. There may be a similar group near you.
March 21, 2012 at 3:11 PM
Thanks for writing me back so fast. I live in rural New Mexico and we don’t have a lot of services but I get by fine I guess. Any by the way, I am 17 and pretty much live on my own now. They have lots of services in Albuquerque but that is 250 miles away. Thanks again for you spending time answering. I guess my friend was wrong in there is a higher percentage of gays that are deaf. Write me any time you like. Are we allowed to use email in here?
March 21, 2012 at 4:21 PM
hey this is a great website, just felt like saying that. ive read many of the articles and they are really interesting and informing id recommend this to any of my guy friends in trouble or have any questions i cant answer
March 21, 2012 at 5:08 PM
I was wondering if you can do a post about how unattractive men are revived in our world. Ive been called unattractive before and i know i am no looker but it has been hard to live life when people judge me on my looks.
March 28, 2012 at 4:17 PM
Is it normal for two guys to masturbate in front of each other, and sometimes wank the other person off?
March 31, 2012 at 10:11 AM
The quick answer is yes, what you’re talking about is completely “normal”. Studies vary, and multiple polls on this site confirm, jacking off with another guy, or helping each other out is a pretty common thing. Studies suggest between 30 and 46% of all guys (all sexualities) have done so. It tends to be most common between younger guys as they’re growing up. (You didn’t mention, but how old are you btw?) It’s the kind of thing that most guys have difficulty admitting to, but yes, it’s pretty common. I don’t think doing these things indicates much about your sexuality. Straight guys do it, gay guys do it. In my mind it’s more of an expression of close friendship, male bonding, “strutting your stuff”, natural curiosity, and so on. We’re trained to feel guilty about it, but hey, if you’re both cool with it, who cares?
March 31, 2012 at 10:31 AM
We are both 17, and neither of us are bothered,
were both straight.
March 31, 2012 at 12:59 PM
Awesome. Thanks for your question and your honesty. If you ever have any suggestions for blog topics, etc., just let me know!
March 31, 2012 at 1:10 PM
A topic for you: Relationships. There is this girl I like but I dont know if she likes me, what to do?
March 31, 2012 at 3:52 PM
I do it with a friend several times too, we just have fun and don’t really talk about it afterwards.
March 31, 2012 at 6:09 PM
The thong is my friends dad found out and I dont know what to say to him if he confronts me about it, any idea?
April 1, 2012 at 2:14 AM
Thong was ment to say problem. Typed it wrong…
April 1, 2012 at 2:17 AM
It’s hard to recommend what to say not knowing the whole situation, but generally what is there really to say? not much to justify or explain or apologize for, it just happened. But understandably an awkward situation. I agree that it very possible you won’t be confronted, it’s probably even more awkward for the guy’s dad and not really the kind of thing where anyone or anything was really harmed in any way. Remember, he’s a guy too so he probably understands and may even have had similar experiences. Good luck and keep us posted.
April 1, 2012 at 1:43 PM
He probably won’t talk to you about it. If he does, I would just try and play it off as it was no big deal and other guys do it to. I understand your fear, if my friends dad confronted me on it, I would be real scared to. I think any man would understand these things so you will probably have no problems. Please let me know how this ends up. I am here for you andon your side.
Billy
April 1, 2012 at 12:18 PM
A topic I would like to here about: Relationships. There is this girl in my class that I really like but I dont know she likes me back, what to do? (I am sure other guys have this problem, therefore making it a good topic)
April 2, 2012 at 11:26 AM
just talk to her try become friends with her if you arent already and then see how things go and if she is your friend then u gotta communicate and just let her know how you feel
April 17, 2012 at 12:25 AM
Like others have said, I think your site is very worth while, and thank you for taking the trouble to manage it.
I’ve thought about some of these issues for so long now, although I am only 22, but I think one of the most difficult things in our western culture is the problem of consumerism which leads to exclusivity. We make one choice and then this excludes others.
I think choice has always been part of life, but it seems so prominent now. If a guy wants to be intimate with another guy, they think perhaps they can’t have intimacy with a girl too? Are they gay if they are attracted to guys?
Straight relationships don’t help sometimes because in our culture straight relationships are put on such a pedastal- it is very hard for some guys to get any meaningful intimacy outside of the boyfriend/girlfriend unit. Friendship has been hollowed out, which is fine for some guys, but terribly painful for others. Gay relationships have been made to parody (in many cases) the straight-husband/wife dualism which sometimes makes ‘straight’ guys fearful to express desire for intimacy with guys because they just don’t want to experience it in the way society has programmed for them (which at the moment is to be called ‘gay’ and follow the script assigned them- still a nuclear family type thing).
I think I have heard that men are more physical than women anyway, which is important to recognise- especially expressing love and affection physically for our friends.
It saddens me that people are saying they are fine with physical stuff with guys but are not interested in love or emotional intimacy. Can you separate them so? I’d be terrified of the loneliness I’d feel by giving my body without my heart being moved. Surely we can’t chop ourselves up into neat little departments?
There is a lovely poem by Christina Rossetti called ‘L.E.L.’ and it is a wonderful evocation of loneliness- my heart is breaking for a little love. I always read it with my body too- because our bodies yearn for touch and embrace which comes from the heart.
There are some wonderful paintings by a guy called Philip Gladstone- check him out if you like. His bathtup paintings are wonderful depictions of intimate moments in young guys’ minds, and his other paintings often capture the isolation of modern life- especially urban life.
As for me, I am blessed with two friends in particular who I am close to. With one I share my deepest spiritual and emotional thoughts, and with the other we just talk about our lives and spend time together. I went to stay at his house at the end of February for 3 nights and the first night he slept in the living room and I in his bedroom (he is in a student house) and on the second night he slept on the floor in his room and I on the bed. I told him how nice it was to have someone else in the room, to hear his breathing and just not to feel alone. Then he said to be he rather agreed, and on the third night he slept on the bed with me, I under the duvet and he on top with a sleeping bag. It was just so nice to have him there and I am sure he liked it too.
But maybe it won’t happen again, which is a shame. But you know, not experiencing all that we might like to, and going through the pain and solitude of being and feeling alone, somehow makes us feel more for others, not that it takes the pain away, but there is intimacy in that very sharing.
I don’t know what to say to those older guys who have the burden of regret and perhaps a sense of wasted youth. That’s no joke, for sure. I have a friend who is nineteen years older than me (he just turned 42), and has just gone through a divorce. He has a young son (aged 5, I think), and I have been to stay with him on a number of occasions and we share spiritual and intellectual stuff together. I guess there are different levels. We can choose to close ourselves off other people, even in the smallest things. I shudder at the number of cold faces one sometimes sees around the place, and how unkind people can be to each other. But if you are willing to open yourself (you have to be wise too) when the time is right and you seem approachable, then that is magentic.
So that you start to see beneath the surface of people. There are some stunningly handsome men with faces that draw you in, and there are others, more ‘run-of-the-mill’, if you like, but sometimes as soon as they open their mouths the handsomest man and the prettiest woman can become the ugliest thing.
I think pictures like the ones that are posted here are nice, on the whole, but we never know the people they really are, and that not knowing, for me at least, sometimes compounds a sense of isolation and loneliness, rather than alleviating it. Just a thought.
Anyway, these are all some thoughts, but hopefully they might be interesting
April 7, 2012 at 7:15 PM
Is it normal to shoot a load on yourself? I’ve been curious but I feel like it would weird as its always on the girl, and whenever it is on a guy its during gay porn.
April 13, 2012 at 10:07 PM
Shooting on yourself is perfectly normal, whether it’s during a solo session or with someone else, tons of people do. Shooting is just the natural culmination of the deed, where it goes doesn’t really say anything about anything. It’s def not weird. It’s usually best not to over-depend on porn to be your guide for too much.
April 14, 2012 at 8:55 AM
I don’t have a mate that contributes it comes out and lands on me…Greatest feelings still there no matter where it lands.!!!!!
April 13, 2012 at 11:30 PM
I couldn’t find an article on this so it may be here, but I’ve heard a rumor that masturbating can weaken your athletic ability for working out, playing a sport, etc. So, someone wouldn’t masturbate for a few days leading up to a big game. The logic is you lose a lot of testosterone, which helps you be athletic, when you masturbate. Is this true?
btw, love the site.
April 14, 2012 at 7:24 PM
First off I want to re-emphasize that I’m not a dr. or psychologist or anything…just a guy with a blog and an opinion haha. That being said, I think what you’re referring to is a popular misconception. As I understand it, ejaculation has no effect on your level of testosterone. You don’t use up or lose testosterone when you ejaculate. You expel semen, which doesn’t contain testosterone. You don’t expel testosterone.
I think the understandable confusion comes from the fact that it feels like everything comes from your balls. Your testes produce sperm and testosterone. Testosterone is just secreted into your bloodstream regardless of whether or not you’re masturbating. When you masturbate, the sperm is expelled from your balls and mixes with seminal fluid which is produced in a combination of places including the seminal vesicle and prostrate gland. Ejaculation leaves most people feeling relaxed and “spent” or even somewhat weakened so that’s probably why people think they are depleting the “manly energy” of testosterone.
Short answer is masturbating shouldn’t have anything to do with lowering athletic performance.
April 14, 2012 at 8:32 PM
this site is realllly great im 22 years old completely straight, i have only had sex with girls all my life and absolutley love it BUT i cant help but find my self watching gay porn constantly theres just something about it that triggers pleasure in a different sense but the problem is i am dying to experience it how do i do it? i am straight as i mentioned and i would like to let loose and go all the way with another guy who is in the same boat as me whose masculine rather than going into a gay bar and meeting flamboiant guys, and as a straight guy this is really mind fucking me!!! need help! Realllyy want to experience it! how do i take the first step?
April 17, 2012 at 12:48 AM
I”m on the same boat. We should make a site for people like us to interact lolz
April 19, 2012 at 8:03 PM
i agree..
April 26, 2012 at 7:08 AM
Any guys have a problem with hair growing on the shaft of your penis? How do you get rid of it ? (shaving hurts)
April 20, 2012 at 7:59 PM
Hey, you really should make an official SGS Forum. I think it’d be another way to discuss and talk about questions that are important to us. Polls are good, but sometimes it would be better to see what people thinks about one or another thing.
April 23, 2012 at 6:15 AM
Funny question but Is it true that masturbating can make you taller? my classmates told me.
April 26, 2012 at 7:05 AM
Aw c’mon, no questions are too goofy around here haha. And, no it is NOT true that masturbation can you taller. Maybe it makes some guys “feel” taller. If it was true, I’d be a giant and playing in the NBA and so would most guys I know. Unless maybe Shaquille O’Neal or Yao Ming have some secret we don’t know about.
April 26, 2012 at 9:40 PM
My older brother wants me to his 11″ cock what should I do?
May 19, 2012 at 2:55 PM
If u are both of mature legal age, and you want to do this, there is nothing to stop from trying it out. If both of u like it, and want to carry on, great. If not – stop !
No big deal
May 19, 2012 at 5:11 PM
how would you start a circle jerk?
May 19, 2012 at 8:52 PM